It was recently pointed out that my long term girlfriend, Kelly, seems to have grown to be co-dependent regarding me. And I don’t necessarily mean that she is needy and simply hopes to spend a great deal of time alongside me, I mean the lady seems to have to be able to do every little thing with me or she won’t actually do anything. I mean that she will go out of her way in order to “care for me” even if i actually don’t have to have it and it hurts her and also complicates the woman’s life. She seems to have an actual disorder, co-dependency can be a true thing. I think people who are co-dependent tend to be people that have got an unsafe love for some other person then demonstrate that love in bad ways. I usually just used it as a kidding around term for clingy, little could I know I might undergo the real thing.
Her co-dependency was at first pointed out to me personally by a number of of my guy friends, including my good friend Shane, but i actually blew these folks off. I thought their pretty much guys that are bored and jealous that i actually have a partner who loves me as much as she does. Then her close friends pointed this out which I thought had been a little bit odd, these people were truly worried about her. But again, I shrugged it off. Then the woman’s parents then my own mother and father told me they believed there was actually something greater than merely excessive clinginess going on. That’s when I came to the realization that there a serious problem.
We went to a specialist who has specialized in human relationships and marriage. It was there that some people told us that Kelly was in deed co-dependent. She loves me to a strong unsafe extreme. She won’t go to the grocery store or perhaps have a real meal without me. She won’t see her close friends or even family without me. She won’t function effectively without me. Furthermore, the lady leaves work in order to bake me cookies or something and carry these to my own work. And even if the lady could get in trouble for it and consequently will be skating on thin ice at her work, she nevertheless does this since the lady really feels she has to take care of me.
This has got to change in the event the lady is to get healthier and if we are too last, and the truth is, it is actually not probable that we can last, which really sucks. The counselor wants her to continue coming back again for therapy. Her father and mother want her to go to Co-dependency Anonymous. This throws me off. What is co-dependency anonymous? There can’t genuinely be any kind of a co-dependency anonymous the same as there is actually an alcoholic’s anonymous. It’s not that bad of a problem. And just what will this include then precisely how can it help? Seriously, what precisely is co-dependency anonymous?