Okay, this is a complicated situation. I’m going to try to explain it as thoroughly as possible. Please try and give me sound advice, I need your help. Okay, here we go…..
Me and my Aries exboyfriend broke up in the beginning of January 2008, we had started in November 2006, and he is an Aries. You know how perfectly Leo & Aries go together, right? Well, this really was perfect. Our relationship was like a dream, and when we broke up it was a crushing heartbreak for me and him. But you know how Aries is, once they have their head set on a decision, that’s that. Or at least, that’s what I thought. Anyway, he had cheated on me the previous August, which I had no idea about until a few months after we broke up. I must tell you that I have cheated before, on a different boyfriend before him, that I broke up with, and although I would never cheat again, I realize that it’s just sex. When he told me, he informed me that it never changed his feelings for me, he had always loved me and it truely was just sex. I was accepting of the news after a day of my head exploding, realizing that I was always willing to have an open relationship and still am. I know who I am, and I love myself. I’m a very free person, I’m bisexual, and I realize that sex is completely seperate from love. I also realized that during that Summer, I had broken up with him once and begged for him back hours later, which also may have caused him to feel like he wasn’t in the dream relationship he thought he had been in, and that in itself may have gave him incentive to cheat. You don’t betray an Aries like that, you must expect a backlash of some sort.
So anyway, I was his friend for a year before we formed a relationship in the first place, and when we started hanging out every day and falling in love in the Summer of 2006, I helped him leave his addiction to cocaine. He was clean for the whole year and four months we were together, but during the last month of our relationship, he started sniffing pills, and shortly after, he ended it with me. He has spent the last 9 months with this new girl Victoria he met shortly after me, an Aquarious who sniffs pills and has sex with him. Their addictions feed off of each others, and he’s lost in a miserable fog, he’s even lost his glow. For the first week or two after our break-up, I tried to help him realize what he was doing. But when you tell an Aries “No, don’t do this to yourself”, they’ll want to do it even more. The more I pushed, the more he pulled away, and the more he became involved in his filthy addiction that he still can’t break. I realized there was nothing I could do, that he wouldn’t let me in, even just to help, because this Aries man didn’t want my help anymore. I know our golden one year and four months was a light in his life that he’ll never forget, and neither will I. So I let him go in my daily life, but not in my heart, and I’ve had my fun with several different Pisces & more Aries men. I started making music, which is really fantastic and people love it, I have a great job and I’m getting 4.0’s in pretty much all of my classes. I am a beautiful, talented, intelligent woman, and I don’t doubt myself. But he’s always been there in my heart and I feel he’s the one. Subconsciously, he’s always been there. I thought I was alone in this, but after every few weeks of silence I’d get a call from him. In May, he called me because he needed to know that I still loved him, and that I was still his baby. After two hours of a conversation that felt like we had never left each other, a few more weeks in silence went by. A few times, we had made quick escape time for each other, just to catch up and see how each other was doing. Although the song has ended, the melody still lingers on.
Last night is the real question I have. He has a girlfriend, and I’ve done all I could to respect that. But last night, when I picked him up for a quick get together to catch up and have a conversation, he told me to shut off the radio, that he just wanted to hear my voice. Then, shortly afterwards, he took my hand and put it on his penis for me to feel that it was erect. I pulled back, and laughed hysterically. Because I thought, at this point, we were clearly just friends who loved each other. Then he asked me, “Why did you want to see me so bad?”. And I said, “Because I missed you. What other reason?”. And he was like, “There must be another reason.” Then I said, “So, what do you want to hear?”. He then whipped out his dick, which made me laugh even harder. This was completely out of the blue, and he hasn’t done anything like this any of the other times that we had made quick time to get togther. So then he was like, “Does this make you uncomfortable?”. I said something along the lines of, “Honestly, no. I’ve seen that thing so many times”, and continued to laugh. He was persistent, and kept insisting and insisting. We were flirting uncontrollably and the desire was buliding up, finally it
( for some reason it got cut off). it happened. Now, I know the answer is to just to live my life how I’ve been living it, having fun and being my independent self, and that time will only tell. Do Aries men ever come back? And if they do, is it just for sex or do they know better than that? The general question is… Do Aries men fall back in love with their ex’s, ever?